What is anal gaping? You may have seen this in porn scenes, but what is it, and how do you achieve it? We dive into this extravagant fetish and answer your burning questions.
What does gaping mean?
Gaping is the act of stretching a relaxed vaginal canal or anal sphincter wide open. An object is usually inserted into the orifice to spread the area open, such as fingers, a hand, a penis, or a sex toy. The result is an open orifice, or “gape”, that you can sometimes see inside. Gaping is most common in anal sex, but it can happen vaginally, too.
Why do people like gaping?
Most people have traditional sex with a closed, tight pussy, or ass. But gaping can be kinky and hot, for both parties.
For a man, knowing he pounded her so hard and so fast, it left her asshole gaping wide, it’s a confidence boost, almost like beating a conquest. If you dabble in sex toys, gaping allows for larger sex toys to be used since her hole opens without restriction. It also opens the door for conversation about double penetration with two cocks in her one hole.
For women, the sheer fact that she can control herself while enjoying the roughness of sex back there makes for a more pleasurable orgasm. And it is a boost of pleasure-sensors physically, mentally, and emotionally, knowing she’s satisfying her lover.
How to achieve gaping?
Gaping is not recommended for newbies or those just starting to experiment with anal sex or taboo kinks. It takes time, patience, and practice to achieve gaping with comfort.
The woman should be relaxed so her inner muscles are calm and can open. When the girl relaxes and allows her partner to submerge into her holes with ease, he has control over insertion and slowly pulling out, which helps gaping to occur. Relaxation is required.
Then, make sure she has an orgasm, or two, or three, before you move to her back door. Orgasming allows all the right muscles to contract, which will soften her. Get her into a good position. When she’s on her hands and knees, doggy-style, or lying flat with her legs and knees open, if preferred. Have some lube on hand, water-based, silicone-based, or whatever works best for her. You don’t want to try gaping if she’s dry!
Lastly, start slow and steady, and work your way up to a cock, strap-on, or dildo. Insert a finger slowly, then faster. Add another finger (until you have a few fingers inside). With each finger, start slow and increase your pace. When she feels wet and is enjoying the sex, grab a dildo and press into her, you guessed it, slowly at first, and then faster. She might have another orgasm along the way, that’s okay! Then, put your dick in her and pound away – this is when you start to reap the benefits of what you sow. Pull her ass cheeks apart from each other, and when you’re ready, pull out. If she has relaxed enough, her hole should be gaping wide open.
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