If you have a wild woman or hope to, you’ll most likely want her to give up the booty. If you’re into anal but not sure how to proceed, read on. Anal sex is definitely a team effort. You both need to be considerate of each other’s boundaries, likes, and dislikes. Whatever those levels are, a new level of orgasm is on the horizon. Here are 20 tips to help make for successful anal sex and a quite pleasurable experience for both of you! Just keep in mind…. slow and steady wins the race! Be safe. Be well. Have fun.
1. Create a space for good sex.
Before you even get to sexy time, you should do your best to create a romantic space for good sex. It can be a simple space. Make your bed, have a towel ready, and essentials on hand. If you’re able to go big, drop some rose petals from the door to the bed. Light a few candles and load a few dozen sexy songs to your Spotify playlist.
2. Start with toys.
If she’s a beginner, having something inserted into her anus can be an intense experience. The general reaction is to tighten up. Help her to relax. Try taking deep breaths; give her a full body massage, and go slow and small with fingers or toys. You can start with anal beads, usually, the smallest bead is inserted first and the more you insert, the larger the bead. Also, look into anal training kits. These are usually dildos of different size & thickness. Before you know it, that pain turns into pleasure, and it is super intense for both of you!
3. Don’t do an enema or douche.
Contrary to popular belief, it’s not advisable to use an enema or douche before anal sex. Not only does it uncomfortably tighten the anus, but enemas also strip the rectal lining of its protective mucus. This can lead to rips, bleeding, and unnecessary pain. Instead, just make sure the bowels are emptied and your girl is clean.
4. Stay well lubricated.
Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. Anal lube is best and highly recommended, for butt sex. If you’re particularly sensitive, numbing cream can help reduce painful sensations when you start out. Water-based lubes are optimal for backdoor sex. The viscosity is thicker which helps achieve a more pleasurable experience. Silicone-based lubricants can stay wet longer and do not get sticky. If you’re new to both, try each and see what works best for you.
5. Keep things clean.
A woman can get a UTI (urinary tract infection) from anal sex. It’s also very preventable. Having vaginal sex before anal sex is recommended because it really sets a mood and gets all the right juices flowing. But, having anal sex and then vaginal sex is like cross-contamination and can lead to a UTI. If you’re compelled to have anal sex before vaginal sex… go for it! But be sure to clean your penis off before it enters the vagina and going for round 2. The same goes for toys! Once in the anus, use a good sex toy cleaner to get it washed and dried, and ready for her pussy. Condoms are the best way to keep things clean. When done with one opening, slide it off, roll on a new rubber and go for the next sweet spot!
6. Be considerate.
We know you wanna nut. But keep her as the #1, especially if she’s a newbie. Popping your cock in her ass brings such an extreme feeling; even a seasoned pro can be caught off-guard. Take your time. Once you get going, and you can see she loves it, go harder and faster, she’ll be speechless.
7. Stop if things feel off.
If anything feels wrong, or it’s too painful, stop. Just because anal sex is hot and fun, doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. Injuries are super rare, but still possible. Listen to each other and quit, if that’s what feels right. If needed, seek medical attention or speak with your doctor about your concerns.
8. She might feel like she needs to poop.
Don’t freak out if she says she needs to poo! This is a totally normal feeling in the beginning. If you suggest she follows tip #3, her bowels will be empty and this will simply be just a “feeling” not a “fact”. The sensation to poop will subside the more she has anal sex.
9. One reason women like butt sex.
While gay men generally engage in anal sex, straight men are less fortunate. They have to find a female partner who’s willing to go there. For some women, butt sex is a hard NO. Women who engage in anal sex seem to be a bit sought after. The anus is tighter than the vagina, so for a man, he knows he’s going to get a quicker climax. For women, it’s also tighter, brings a different (also fantastic) climax. It also completely prevents any pregnancy possibilities.
10. She doesn’t need you.
There’s a distinct difference from the penis to a dildo or a hot tongue. A penis is a live flesh, thick, pulsating, and warm. But you might see some assholes penetrated by dildos or female tongue. Girl-on-girl sex is always hot. She might not need your well-endowed manhood if she’s getting a similar orgasm from another female, whether feverous tongue or thin fingers in her bootyhole.
11. Her climax is huge.
Most all women who engage in anal sex will climax from having a penis in their ass. It might not be on the first time, but don’t get discouraged. Be patient. The more comfortable you both get, and the more you experiment, the further you test your boundaries. When she cums, anally, you’ll know!
12. Porn-like anal sex is not the goal.
Don’t use porn as a realistic perception. There’s a façade about anal sex in porn. In most scenes, it looks flawless and perfect. What you don’t see is the preparations behind-the-scene. Casting girls comfortably with anal, cleaning, and sometimes the foreplay itself is cut out of the final scene.
13. What to do if she queefs?
Let’s talk queefing or farting. Whether this is in between deep thrusts or after your sex session is over, it’s a completely normal bodily function. Don’t make fun of her. Either crack a joke or say nothing at all. Is it embarrassing? Yes. Is it totally routine? Absolutely. Don’t make her feel awkward, that decreases the chances she comes back for more… dummy!
14. Try it on your own first.
Fitting your cock into a super-tight asshole isn’t easy. We suggest getting a toy, a condom, some lube of your preference, and giving it a shot as a solo act. There’s less pressure on your own and the clean-up is a breeze.
15. Try your tongue first.
You don’t have to go dick-first into her asshole. We’ve talked about different toys, but what if you don’t have those on hand? Eat her pussy and massage her asshole with your fingers. Lick her asshole, tongue-punch it a few times. Slowly insert a finger, making sure she’s lubricated. If she’s receptive, move to 2 fingers. Once she’s in the zone, spread her butt cheeks wide and slowly push the tip of your dick in. It’s game on from there.
16. Positions are key.
A much more fun topic to discuss. Beginners might like missionary; legs high and wide, while you slowly insert yourself into her. Intermediate babes might want to try it when she lies on her stomach, your legs outside of hers, and you squeeze into her tight spot. More experienced women are likely to dig reverse cowgirl or a deep-arched doggy style! Whatever position works, you can’t really go wrong. You’re both bound to reach a new level of sexual pleasure.
17. Create a safe word.
A safe word is always important, even in the most vanilla of sexual encounters. This “safe word” is so important because it’s a mutually agreed-upon word that either of you can use when you need to tap out for a moment. There’s a level of trust and communication that is respected on both sides. It could be “cheese pizza”, “bunnies” or the ever-traditional “pineapples”. It doesn’t matter as long as you’ve discussed it with your partner and you’re both on the same page.
18. Include the clit.
Just because your goal is to enter her forbidden territory doesn’t mean the rest of her sex disappears. Even when you’re entering her asshole, reach around and rub her clit. She’ll get a little wilder since she’ll be aroused in both spots. Keep up it and she might have multiple orgasms at once. This will definitely have her coming back for more!
19. Don’t give up if the first time isn’t ideal.
Even with our tips, things may not go as planned. Fear not! Anal sex isn’t always a smashing hit from day 1. Sometimes it takes time, patience, and practice to get where you wanna be. Might take a few tries to achieve a mutually climatic experience, or, it could take years. Even if it’s years, you will have created a special bond with your babe, and y’all will have had a lot of fun trying to find that sweet spot!
20. Show your appreciation after sex.
Don’t just cum and leave. Let me say it again… DO NOT JUST CUM & LEAVE. Nothing is more of a turn-off to women than a guy who gets what he wants and leaves. Cuddle her, caress her body, and make HER a sandwich if you feel so compelled! These small tokens will let your girl know you appreciate her and her body. Some women perceive those small, sweet interactions more than the size of your dick. It’s important fellas!
These are just a select 20 good tips to help for a successful anal sex experience. Take them, leave them… or add tips from your own experiences. We’d love to hear! Comment below or email us at [email protected].